As humans, we often have a deep-seated need for approval, validation and acceptance from others. We look to others to tell us whether we’re doing well, whether we’re liked, whether we’re good enough. But what happens when we rely too heavily on external sources for our self-worth? It becomes a dangerous game of constantly seeking approval, and never feeling quite satisfied. 

What if, instead of looking outside of ourselves for validation, we found it within?

What if we became our own source of approval? It may sound like a daunting task, but it’s a game-changer for living a more fulfilling life.

Here’s how to get started:

1. Know yourself

The first step to becoming your own approval is to know yourself. This means understanding your values, your goals, your strengths, and your weaknesses. When you have a strong sense of who you are as a person, it becomes easier to trust your own judgment and believe in your abilities. 

2. Trust yourself 

The second step is to trust yourself. Trust your instincts, your gut feeling, your intuition. Learn to listen to yourself and trust your own decision-making process. Remember, you know yourself better than anyone else, so trust that you are making the best choices for you. 

3. Tell yourself what you need to hear

We all have an inner critic that can be harsh and critical. Instead of listening to that voice, start talking to yourself in a positive way. Tell yourself what you need to hear to feel good about yourself. Give yourself compliments, encouragement and support. 

4. Take care of yourself 

Self-care is crucial for self-approval. Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Treat yourself kindly, eat well, exercise regularly, and do things that bring you joy. When you feel good, you’re more likely to trust yourself and believe in your own worth. 

5. Stop seeking approval from others 

Finally, stop seeking approval from others. You are the only person who needs to approve of yourself. Of course, it’s nice to hear positive feedback from others, but it’s not necessary for your own self-worth. When you stop relying on external validation, you’ll be more confident, self-assured, and at peace within yourself. 

Becoming your own approval is a process that takes time, patience, and practice. But this shift in perspective can be life-changing. When you no longer rely on others to tell you that you’re worthy, you’re free to be yourself and pursue your own happiness. So start by knowing yourself, trusting yourself, being kind to yourself, taking care of yourself, and stop seeking approval outside of yourself.

You are good enough, and you do not need anyone to tell you that.